It's Time to Speak Up

   “Hey Rod, tomorrow I’m taking my little airplane out to see what it can do. I’ll see ya later.”

   Those were the last words I ever heard my best friend speak. I never saw him again. The next day, his newly-assembled ultralight airplane disassembled in flight, for reasons suspected but officially unknown.

   That tragic event occurred in December of 1984 and my friend’s words are still clear. I’ve run that audio engram over and over, hundreds of times, each time reliving the same feeling I had when he last spoke. The memory provokes a peculiarly unsettling experience—as if my world is about to change and I must act immediately to stop it. I abhor that feeling, but I also respect it.

   If only I had said, “Hey partner, wait! Something’s not right here. Yes, your airplane has a ballistic parachute system. But can you trust it? You are nine years my senior. I defer to your experience and judgment. But listen to your words, ‘See what my little airplane can do?’ It sounds like unnecessary risks are involved. Convince me I’m wrong.” I have no idea if those words would have prevented the loss of my friend. I wish, however, I had spoken them.

   Instead I quipped, “Hey buddy, have a great time.” Those words, tossed away as easily as a crumpled gum wrapper, came from the wrong place inside my brain. It’s a place that is overly concerned about butting my nose in other people's business or butting heads with them (I'm a "live and let live guy" long as someone still gets to live). Given another opportunity, I’d attach a different part of my brain to my voice—a wiser part, the part within all of us that knows better than to keep quiet. I’ve since had that opportunity with a number of others.

   It first happened a few months later, at an aviation expo. I overheard a young flight instructor regaling fellow pilots with a curious tale. He confessed with pride how he flew a Zlin—one without any working gyro instruments—to the expo in scudrunning weather conditions that morning. Indeed the weather was bad, very bad. That’s why the craft I landed at the airport that day was a Chrysler, not a Cessna.

   I was taught to mind my own business. After all, few people like another person’s values imposed upon them. But where does his business become my business? No precise, well-defined border exists. Sometimes it’s clear; sometimes it’s not. In this case it was clear that a fellow pilot thumbed his nose at risk, perhaps unaware of the hidden dangers.

   In aviation, the users are also the caretakers. Each of us shares a tacit responsibility for aviation’s health, a responsibility that implies informing fellow aviators when we think their actions expose them and others to unacceptable levels of danger. On that basis, I decided to speak up. I approached him and said, “Excuse me but I’d like to tell you a little story about a dear friend of mine who’s no longer with us....”

Speaking up has its risks. At the extreme, it’s possible that an offended ruffian might say, “Hey. I’m going to punch your nose in.” I suggest you avoid saying, “Don’t you know you never end a sentence with a preposition?” After all, it’s possible he may elect to punch in your nose.

While it’s unlikely you’ll ever receive impromptu rhinoplasty, the risk of offending someone by speaking up always exists. Yes, your actions have consequences. But so does inaction. Silence is not necessarily golden; it has consequences too.
Perhaps the words of the bright but mischievous radio personality, Bill Balance, are appropriate here. He once said, “I’d rather have remorse for what I did, than regret for what I didn’t do.” Applied in the context of aviation safety, it seems better to say, “I’m sorry I said that,” rather than “I wish I had said that.” In this small way, we fulfill our responsibility as pilots to help ensure the survival of aviation and its participants.

Since December of 1984, I’ve taken airplane keys away from a drunk pilot, and grounded a few airplanes that I thought presented an imminent danger to both pilot and passenger. I’ve even had a rather spirited discussion with the pilot of a Cherokee Six after eight people emerged (you do the math). Each time I hesitated before I acted and thought, “Is this really any of my business?” Then I heard those words, “Hey Rod, tomorrow I’m taking my little airplane out to see what it can do. I’ll see ya later....”


By Rod Machado | | All Rod's Posts, CFI Resource Center | 4 comments
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  • Kelli - August 17, 2020

    Those are words of wisdom to live by. I’m always ready to listen to anyone concerned about safety and consider and calculate any risks I may have missed. I am fortunate to not struggle too much with ego. However I cannot tell you how many people have told me “don’t drive the tractor, it will kill you, let a man do that for you” (instead of suggesting I find a good teacher to help me learn how to do it safely), “don’t learn how to fly, it can kill you.” I am weary of those who tell me not to do something because they don’t believe I am capable of learning to do it as safely as anyone else. All of life involves assesing risks. I hope that people concerned will always feel comfortable with asking me if I considered a certain risk and if I cannot say that I have then I better rethink what I’m doing. But instead of saying “dont do that” ask if I considered the specific risk.

  • Hans Cathcart - August 17, 2020

    I think we ought to train speaking up in flight school, and maybe how best to word the advice in order to achieve the desired outcome. We should also practice taking advice. I recall the story of a Mooney M20J N9133Z which crashed after take-off from Petaluma. The pilot stated he was taking off on runway 29, so someone on the ground corrected him that he was actually taking off on 11. This pilot was disoriented before he ever entered the clouds.

  • betty prakken - August 06, 2020

    Hi Rod
    I was always a chicken pilot so I just turned 90 last year. I always enjoy your thoughts. My son just sold his airplane yesterday and that makes me sad. Best to you. Betty Prakken

  • William F Woodbury - August 06, 2020

    Right on point, Rod. Those of us who have seen tragedy or experienced gen-you-wine emergencies in flight truly understand that managing risk is an essential part of aviation, that to remain silent when one sees a hazard developing does nobody any good. I took heat on social media recently for suggesting to a 17 year old kid that his plan to fly a single engine airplane around the world solo might not be the best idea, at least until he gets a little seasoning, his frontal lobes fully develop, and he can take meaningful stock of the risks involved. I was told to butt out, stop killing the dream, mind my own business. Until that part of the GA culture changes a little and we all take more responsibility for safety, needless accidents will continue. I’m not saying to play air cop, but a gentle word to the wise when warranted can pay major dividends.

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